AnvilheadII your answer brought tears to my eyes. It's so true.
When I was in the US with bf, I was in charge of our bank account -and anything related to money really, because he doesn't know how to (neither care to) save money. Everytime one of his crises would come up, he would keep asking about how much money we have or start an argument and said it didn't add up. "You know you can just tell me you spent $20 dollars on yourself !". "YOU bought cigarettes and vodka".
I hope your counsellor will help you sort things out.