Thank you for all your advice.
I'm thinking this over carefully and listening to all your wise words. I'm asking/ calling him on some of his behaviors. He is upset and frustrated with what I'm saying but is not yelling or hanging up the phone on me but I'm bringing up my concerns until he hears all what I have to saw. It's not easy but I know it must be done. It's just hard to trust someone who doesn't follow through with what they say. And I'm no saint either, I nag and I'm emotional.