Hello to those will similar situations, Its too bad but as you mentioned feels good that we are not alone.
Wonderful points made by members here and I appreciate it. I've already told him I go to Al-Anon and he watched our daughter while I went. Good point on changing "try" to "I will". Also great point on making sure there's a safe plan in place before admitting my plans.
It's sad, as I'm sure you know. When he's nice and fun he's a good guy. Great with our daughter, but he has chosen to not help himself yet. When he's drunk, I feel disgust and disappointment seeping through my soul. I gotta work on that. I have done much better with focusing on myself, but must continue that.....
Thanks again