And that my friend is why he won't get clean. That is a huge form of manipulation. It is emoational hijacking! If he wants to get clean, he will have to do it because HE wants it and because he realizes he has to do it for him. I too have had my AH say this to me, but no more. I won't be manipulated anymore and he knows it. If he chooses not to get clean he will have to face his own ramifications of that. I think he is seeing that because I have been sticking to my boundaries quite well, but it has taken years of going to Celebrate Recovery and therapy for me to realize it.
In hindsight, I wish I had left when my children were babies. It would be alot easier I believe than now that they are older and understand what is going on. They would not have known any differently if I had done so.
Good Luck and God Bless! Keep posting, you are not alone!
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cgfox 
. After an argument and a period of silence, he's back texting/calling -saying he's going to change, but it won't be easy, and he won't get clean if I'm not back in his life.
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