Thanks all. Interesting. You've helped me re-set my expectations. It did sort of shock me hearing him say it, because that's the first time I've heard him say that he had an issue and wanted help to kick it.
But you're all right, I need to re-focus on me and my self. Bumpity bump bump along this road.
He works for himself so while proving his income is killing me on the court financials, that won't allow him the excuse of him not able to attend for whatever reason.
Thanks again, I think I will read some of those stickies on detachment/my side of street.