Justwantnormal, i wanted to speak out on this.
I sometimes worry that my not speaking up is the only reason he hasn't really taken quitting seriously.
One of the first things I learned here was the 3 Cs.
I didn't cause it.
I can't control it.
I can't cure it.
There is nothing you can say that will make him stop drinking. Nothing. I know these are harsh words to hear but simply is the way it is.
For me what cam out of this awareness was if I couldn't take care of my AW, if I couldn't make her better then maybe I could start taking care of myself. I could begin my own recovery and start my own healing.
Your friend,