Left untreated, it will get worse. The rate could be a couple of years to a couple of decades, but the toll on mind and body will show either way. Some A's are high bottom drunks, meaning it doesn't take a major crisis to snap them out of it and into recovery. Some are low bottoms, which are things like loss of job, home, family, car wreck, major health scare. And some, sadly, are no bottoms. Nothing will ever break the spell of the drink. Regardless of which category your A falls into, it's up to him to find recovery. Nothing you do or don't do will lead him there. What are you doing to take care of yourself in all the chaos? This is as good as it gets for right now, so what are you doing to still enjoy your life while he's drinking away his?