I could tell this was something she does not want to do and that she loves me.
Babe -- you don't have enough gas in the tank to worry about what
she does or thinks or who she is or isn't taking advice from right now. You are pretty recently sober, I gather, and that means you have a full time job working your own recovery. As we say here -- sweep your side of the street. Stay sober. Work your program. And the rest will work out one way or the other.