Maybe it is his self esteem and not you--sounds like even though he blames you for
everything in that moment or two before he gets his next drink I think he knows he
has ruined his life and he probably feels guilty about it also. Our As are just to weak
to do the right thing. I hope you find a way to deal with this without provoking him
kicking things and breaking things is a bad sign and often leads to more abusive
behavior. Please take care of yourself. Smiles and prayers--Dee