Hello ellima01,
My husband is also an alcoholic and drug addict. I know exactly what you mean. They can call you names, and some how turn a horrible situation into YOUR FAULT!!!! I am going through hell right now, as a matter of fact, I just found some type of pipe my husband has used for cocaine, while I was cleaning. ONCE AGAIN, WHILE I WAS CLEANING, NOT HIM!!! Why are we the ones suffering, when they are the ones that don't care enough to make things good at home. In the back of my head, I know that... when we leave, they will truely realize what GREAT women they had. I guess I just have been trying to avoid that!! I am so sad!!