it's always are fault (the sober one). we make them drink more. it has nothing to do with them or the issues they have. i do the same thing. i try not to say anything to him when he drinks, but it get to the point that if i don't i feel like i want to kill him.my A is passed out now from hi drunkness. i had to put him on my back last night a take him to his room so that our boys didn't get up and see him. he was so drunk that the people he was out with had to pick him up to walk him home. then i got to get up and clean the pee out of my extra bed (from him). do you hate to look at your A to?