Hi and welcome Audrey - glad you're going to AlAnon - supports important.
For me I drank until I couldn't - I was deathly ill by the end - but the experience shocked me out of my insanity.
I drank away two relationships and two careers.
I think what you need to do is focus on you - your bf may get his 'aha' moment...or he may not. You have to decide how much you're going to pout up with and how long you're prepared to wait.
D