Just a girl-
I truly believe I don't get to call someone who does not call themselves an alcoholic, one (contrary to what I wrote above). I do get to say if someone's drinking impacts me however and I have started to realize that that is enough.
My hubby (and his dad's) drinking impacted me. I live 2800 mi away from my brother but I suspect if I lived closer it would impact me too. I know my grandfather on my mother's side (though I was months old when he died) impacted me across the generations. None of my mom's siblings struggle with alcohol, but about half of them married people with alcohol concerns.
I am also super grateful that regardless of what anyone else in my family decides....I get to break the cycle with me, myself and I. I am grateful I choose (and keep choosing) recovery.