Sweetheart - I can FEEL your love for this man oozing out of your posts. I'm not making excuses for him here - but please don't take his behaviour as a personal thing against you. It sounds to me like he KNOWS what he should be doing, but he can't quite hack it yet and he is SO blessed to have you backing him up with all of this.
I don't know the answer - would he read SR? I know personally, if someone mentioned AA to me, when I was coming to terms with my addiction, I would back off as it (with respect to all reading) does have a curtained stereotype unless you've experienced it.
Your guy is SO blessed to have you and he DOES seem aware of his addiction - the rest is really up to what you can cope with babe. Love to you Xx