is there a Damon House in your area? i mention it because the one located near my hospital is VERY well run and structered, they always need help. i would never know that many who are there were former addicts. these guys that live there practice fund raising, work at food banks, physical fitness, clean the streets, plant flowers and i think their barricks are probably cleaner than my house.
perhaps you could suggest to sonny that he is "networking" and opening doors to possibilities?
his biggest issue sounds like boredom now, but once he gets a job, he skews priorities...he knew he would get fired, but chose the wedding instead.
we go through this with students who want to take off for social events, they are presented with a clear choice, take off and accept an incomplete grade or not. even though these are supposed to be mature physicians, they still do not address the facts... i've been waiting on an answer for 2 months and i am beyond annoyed!
( its not just your son)