I just want to second what everyone else has said: just because your husband says that's what the psych said does not mean that's what the psych actually said. My husband frequently twists what our marriage counselor says around to support his cause. I don't know if they really believe they heard such nonsense, or if they just think they can talk us into it believing it? Either way, it's still just nonsense. DO NOT believe him. You are not "the reason" that he drinks. He drinks because that's what alcoholics do.