Yes Loopydays and Sparklekitty you are right......I found it really hard to remember his addiction is protecting itself. I have a lot of work to do.
I have an al-anon meeting this week.
And no Sparkekitty....I don't think it is possible with AH....I don't think we've ever really had that (well by that I mean I've never had that) with him. Possible in the future....I don't know....it seems so far away in terms of all the work that would need to be done first. I don't think he wants to do that work. And I cant make him obviously.