Sorry you're dealing with this. My STBXAH sees a shrink who (from all I can gather) spends 45 minutes a week metaphorically patting him on the back and helping him come up with creative excuses for his abhorrent behavior, but never actually encouraging him to take responsibility for himself or his actions. I asked him why he's dropping $40 a week on the copay when his mom would do the same freaking thing for free?!?