Thanks both.
Yes one of my girlfriends reminded me of the same thing - his version - what he is filtering and 'hearing'. And obviously I am new in my own recovery and am finding it hard to not feel the finger pointing.
You are so right ladyscribbler....its never crossed his mind ONCE...he actually told me it never enters his brain that I might have my own thoughts and plans!!!
Apparently the other problem he has is that he is completely "unselfish" and needs to learn to put himself first.
I am PRAYING that the psych meant putting himself first over the alcohol.....bc if he meant in regards to the rest of life/ his family etc etc then I almost laughed out loud. He ALWAYS puts his own needs first.