Please forgive me for being too wishy-washy to pick just one bullet point from the proposed list as a simple idea I'd like to convey relates to a couple of them.
After I was well into hitting new lows faster than I could set new lower standards in my drinking I was as close to looking and feeling like ten pounds of sh*t stuffed into a five pound bag as was possible. The most basic of functions in personal care were steps in positive reinforcement; making certain I drank water, that I brushed my teeth, that I showered completely, that I wore clean, pressed clothing, that I stepped outside, that I spoke to someone and looked them in the eye, that I ate... I had to remind myself that not only were these necessary steps in getting well but that I was good enough and deserved them.
From establishing basic self-care came the understanding that I am good enough to give myself the positive reinforcement I need to grow as a human being. So began the journey of learning and loving.