honeypig

From what you have posted so far, it's hard to imagine what would make you think this.

One of the things you'll frequently hear here is that we need to work with what IS, not what we WISH would be or what we think COULD be. Is this relationship right for you in the real world, now? We're not talking about some future date when things have magically become better and your partner has reached that "potential" that you just knew was there all along...

I'd also like to add that alcoholism is NOT defined by some medical guideline about exactly how many drinks a week a person takes. It's defined more by tears shed, lies told, hearts broken, bills unpaid, jobs lost, DUIs, jail time, domestic violence, damaged children, broken marriages....you get the idea, I think.