Hello, my name is Diana and I am an alcoholic/addict.
I was married for 20 years to a very emotionally and verbally abusive non A. Did I ever cheat? NO WAY.......Did he? Absolutely!
It is true that while under the influence our guards are down, and we could do things we wouldn't even consider while sober. However, that being said, some of us do have morals in place whether we are under the influence or not. I may have the disease of addiction, but I do not suffer the disease of immorality.
I understand both sides in this discussion. Having been cheated on I understand concerns that some of you express, and I do feel for you. I think we are categorizing here and placing "labels" on A's. Do all men cheat? Of course not!
Do all women cheat? Of course not!
Do all A's cheat? Of course not!
The theory that all recovering A's protect each other with an unspoken pact about others who cheat in recovery is absolutely ludicrous.
My thoughts and prayers go out to all who are hurting because of a cheating spouse or drinking/using spouse.
God Speed
Diana