I'm glad you're back.
My BF was an active alcoholic. He asked me to move in with him. I told him I would not, could not, if he was drinking. I did not work this hard to live a life that was not chained to the madness of alcoholism so that I could sign on to his. It would be like making a down payment on my coffin. That is just the truth for me.
He is sober, nearly 8 months. He says that if I started drinking again, he probably would as well. Which I tell him is a dumb idea, better just show my sorry butt where the door is than throw in his sobriety.
Our relationship in SO many ways depends upon us being sober. Everything is better when we are sober, hand down. We did it the other way in the past and it was just misery.