Welcome peaceofme. It's great to have you here. I hope you'll feel better talking about your situation.
I've abused alcohol to try & help with grieving in the past. It just prolonged the healing process - and kept me numb & foggy. I wasn't very enthused about anything during those times. I always fell back on alcohol to make things better - but I finally learned it was slowly killing my spirit & making me miserable. It may have helped ease the pain temporarily, but the price I paid for my addiction was never worth it. I hope you'll find your way back to your sober life. We're glad you're here.