Originally Posted by
brugmansia 
I want to write him back and say:
"You are a liar, a thief, a cheating man. A con man. All 4 are deal breakers for any more communication between us. I just regret I could have seen it for what it really was. Do not ever contact me again."
But I won't.
This sounds assertive but may be manipulative. I don't trust myself anymore. I need a sponsor.
He already knows that he is all of those things. You wouldn't be enlightening him...you would simply be opening yourself up for more hurt. It's simply not worth it. But.....you already know that.
I'm glad you weren't able to erase the post. It's extremely healthy to get that stuff OUT in a safe environment. "He" is not a safe environment for you.
This is your path to recovery from a very harmful relationship.....we'll walk it with you. You deserve a partner who is kind, loving, thoughtful......and unfortunately, an addict will struggle to be any of those things as long as they are in active addiction. And we will be disappointed to expect it of them.
gentle hugs
ke