AA has no opinion that someone there is "wrong" or behaved "badly".
I think you are listening with a preconceived notion, or are feeling "badly" about your own behavior.
AA, however, is not for everyone which is why most people don't stay or bother to develop a personal understanding of the program. Alas, there are many who simply parrot the slogans and jargon with nary a passing acquaintance of their import.
Hope that you find what you want. Jim S.