I chose not to have kids with my AXH. I come from alcoholics, and the risk of him relapsing and our children being alcoholics/addicts seemed just too likely for me. I know you can't guarantee anything about how your children will turn out, but the thought of an addict or alcoholic is just too much for me. I too am in my mid thirties, and just figure that since I choose to be single for a long time so I can heal from all of this, that I can always adopt in my late 30's or 40's if I really feel the desire to raise a child.