I really value the shared experiences of ACOAs. This last year has been hard because at least some of my children say that their lives were better when Stbxah and I were together. DD13 and I talked about this today. She said that even though AH and I barely had a relationship, at least then she had two parents and a heck of a lot more money.
I know time will tell but it hasn't been easy when my children are unhappy that I got their father out of the house and won't ever let him back in.