I did all the checking on, driving by, asking questions, searching the wallet for reciepts, searching for hidden bottles. I thought it was keeping me sane BECAUSE I would know the truth, actually when I think back it made me crazier and the tremendous amount of time I spent when I could have be doing something for me. You will find such peace when you can let go and say it really doesn't matter it is what it is. Good Luck to you.