If she has been lying to you, then the person you love is an illusion. That doesn't make you a fool, it just means that someone else fooled you. There is a difference. Sadly, the internet is a perfect set-up for people to present themselves differently than they really are and my guess is people are fooled more often than you might think.
As you move forward, I hope you meet that special someone who has all the qualities of your illusion only this time it will be for real.
Hugs
Ann