Originally Posted by
wanttobehealthy 
Another thing that hurts kids which I dislike hearing about occurring is parents who vilify the A to their kids. My kids know their dad is an A and have seen him be abusive BUT Ill be damned if I am going to make my kids listen to me or anyone else put their dad down.
Same.
My XAH screws up and can't pay (the minimal private agreement) child support. It burns me up. I almost BURST wanting to rant about it to the kids about what an ******** their father is and how he can't even pay his rent let alone the $25 a week for each kid. But I shut up.
Some nights, when he has money on his phone and can be bothered to call the kids, I can tell he is drunk and been using drugs - just from the crazy conversations I hear the kids having with him. Those nights I tell the kids: You realise he is drunk don't you? And that's all I say, the rest I keep to myself.