Mike,
You know how you sat you recall almost nothing of your childhood?
My xAH remembers nothing of his childhood w an AF except avoiding being home, and hiding in the woods a lot... but remarkably after his dad died a year ago suddenly the whole family started to rewrite history and now you'd think he grew up in the perfect family. I guess dealing w real memories is too much so he and his toxic clan have all just created an alternate reality. Seeing that scares me for my kids when they spend time w them. I just hope my girls grasp on reality and truth telling can be stronger than their collective insanity.
I should've added that to my list as excuses why I stayed "desire to protect my kids from being around XAH's family w out me". That's still a hard one to deal with.