Hi Ruby;
Maybe he needs a foot up his a$$ to get him off of the sofa / chair and helping you a bit.
You are amazing staying sober in the face of that. You will be so strong in sobriety that Superman couldn't knock you off the booze wagon.
When you make up your mind, that man better watch out.
Meanwhile, take care of yourself and kids and don't show him a thing emotionally. He lost that right long ago.