It's probably part of her denial that she blames you and not her actions for why she can't see the kids. My X is doing the same. Just the other day he told me that I am hindering myself by not having time to work, look for a new place, pack while he is with our son. And yet he plans overtime and community service, probation meetings during his kid-time. If he sees it that way, he doesn't really know why I'm doing this. As far as I'm concerned, HE is hindering ME by not being the kind of parent I can trust to leave our child with while I get some time for myself. Thanks for letting me vent on your thread.