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Old 11-16-2013, 02:11 AM
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Hi Sunrise you probably don't know me yet, I'm from the March 2013 group. I think you are reading too much into this action of your husband's -- he saw wine on sale so he bought a bottle he would like and a bottle he thought you would like.

If you have stopped drinking then tell him so, he can't read your mind and he can't know that the wine in the fridge is a problem for you unless you tell him. Be straightforward "I'm not drinking anymore, I appreciate you getting the wine but I won't be drinking it so let's give it to ..." If necessary empty it down the drain. But if he doesn't know you have stopped he may well keep bringing wine home.

Could you use the wine money for something the two of you can enjoy together? It could be a favourite food, chocolate, a DVD to watch together etc

On the subject of his motives: be firm about your intentions, what you intend to do and exactly how he can support you, keep things in the present and future not the past.

Best wishes to you.
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