Jan,
'scuse me?.........you found their rules unacceptable??? Whatever happened to '..going to any lengths...? Until you are sick and tired of being sick and tired, and willing: TO GO TO ANY LENGTHS, I'm afraid that there will be no center out there for you.
When I came into AA, I realized that I had to forget what I was thinking, and take all the suggestions from all those who seemed to have a handle on this thing we call sobriety.....that's quite a humbling experience, but so far, it has worked for over 15 years.........
KCB darlin.......one o these days you'll be right where you're supposed to be, and everything will fall into place.....In the meantime, I'll be prayin for ya...
Love & Light,
Noelle