Originally Posted by
brazilian 
I'm still attached to the idea of smoking pot in a healthy way, once a week maybe. Sounds ridiculous? Probably. I dream about having a nice job, or not so nice, but a honest and well paying job. And then, on a Friday night, or Saturday, smoke ONE joint, drink like 2 or 3 beers and have some fun and relax. Is this asking too much? Or am I just deceiving myself?
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This is really crux of the matter. If you aren't able to smoke pot or drink alcohol in a healthy/moderated mannner now - it's extremely unlikely that you will ever be able to do so in the future. It's just the nature of addiction - and it really doesn't matter what drug you are talking about.
And in the end, only you can decide if you are addicted or an alcoholic. You need to look at your life and your drinking/smoking and see if it is a problem.