Oh, Firesprite---there is no doubt that you are in shock, right now. And, probably will be for a while--even if you don't know it.
The best thing I can tell you is to do your best to Let Go and Let God---and just keep doing the next right thing.
You have no control over this crap--NONE. You will need to control only those things that you DO have control over. You need to take care of yourself.
My heart goes out to you, FireSprite!! I am glad that you came here to post about it.
We care about you.
dandylion