Wow! I had an Aha moment after reading your responses what really is going on here. To have you guys take my quotes, and to put them into a healthy perspective almost made me feel sick my stomach. I need to get to another Al-anon meeting today. I need to work on my steps, because I am starting to feel way over my head. He did a good job at making my "special day" about him, yes. I am looking for work, but employers are looking for part-time. I need more to move out, put my child in daycare, and still be able to pay bills. Things are just not moving fast enough. Thank you all for your sharp insight.