When non alcoholics on here talk about RECOVERY,what exactly do you mean,do you talk about getting your life back on track,having a peaceful happy home etc,or do you feel that if you lived with an alcoholic then you are sick,i ask this because yesterday I was asked when was I going to look after ME,and get better,because I am sick,this made me mad,i ended relationship,am working,looking after home,yes I have my sad/angry moments,after all relationship was nearly 9 yrs .But I am NOT falling apart.