"There is an old AA saying that: Alcoholics Anonymous doesn't open up the gates of heaven and let us in - it opens up the gates of hell and lets us out. When I got released from my alcoholic hell, what I found myself experiencing was life. The very thing I had been drinking to cope with!" - Robert Burney
I just read this & had to laugh. That's where I'm up to with co-dependence. I am 50 years old & have been clinging onto my co-dependent behaviour for the same reason the alcoholic clings to the bottle ... because without it, you have to face life! And may I assure you that the bottom I had to hit was just as low & desperate & painful as any alkie has hit. Some of us are die hards
To anyone younger than me reading this - the saying "Let go or be dragged" is so very true. Let go of it before it drags you through Hell & Highwater.