I felt like I was doing sobriety wrong at first because I didn't get a pink cloud, a job, all my friendships renewed, amazing health, clear skin, etc etc. I had heard many people talk about that and I was ashamed at my failure.
But I had some recovering addicts and alcoholics that shared my more mundane experience to assure me I was doing just fine. Life is what life is, and kudos to those who get the gold plated sobriety delivered to them, and kudos to us who get the quieter version too.
More will be revealed, they told me...and part of that revelation was that drinking/drugging were actually not the only issue in my life. BUT, they were aggravating every issue in my life, and free of them I had a chance to actually live.
The second time my BF got sober he had a pink cloud that was SO over the top it was scary. No one could stay on that self righteous high for too long without feeling the fall. Seriously, he was unbearable. This time his sobriety is a more quiet thing, but...I think he's much less likely to fall off of it.
I admit, I envied people who got a pink cloud. And a new car, and their marriage fixed. But I have NEVER envied anyone who relapsed. Yup, sobriety for the win. Hands down.