Thank you everyone for your input. I mostly agree with everyone here but like many codependents, I am having a hard time letting him decide b/c his decisions always end in disaster. When he is released from prison, he will not have anywhere to go. I truly want him to come stay with my husband & I for a little while in another state but feel he needs to prove himself a little first.
Here is my next question: should I let him come stay with me for a week or so when he gets out? Would that do any good? I thought that maybe then I could bring up rehab again face to face. My husband has agreed to let him come stay with us for a short while, yet he is very apprehensive. I want to be there for my brother & make him feel accepted yet I don't want to rock the boat with my husband.
Please help!