It seems that a lot of people new to sobriety have a death wish about going to drinking establishments. Although some succeed a huge percentage do not. I take being in drinking situations very seriously. Even today I always have an escape plan and whenever possible have a person who knows that I am recovery with me.
I hear time and time again I have to go to xyz function. 99.9% of the time people dont have to go they choose to go. I understand if they do not go it will create an comfortable situation but they do not have to go.
When my son got married I told him that I would be at the wedding and I would be at the reception until I felt uncomfortable and then I would leave. Many would say you have to be at your own sons reception. I say BS the only thing that I have to do is stay sober the rest are choices.
In my opinion being in drinking situations for an alcoholic is almost universally a bad idea.