I think jdooner makes a really good point. I had to look at my own individual strengths and weaknesses and see what I could use to parlay my sobriety. I am competitive, when used in the right settings it can be of benefit. When they told us in rehab that only 10% of us would make it, that spurred me on. I have always thrived on being the "in spite of" girl. Owning my sobriety took it out of everyone else's hands...in a strange way letting go is empowering.