recovering2 - i know what you're saying. all of this is being put into place while he is still heavily sedated. i haven't even discussed this with my bf yet. i am very ready for him to not be into it. but that is ok, it's his choice. he doesn't have keys to the apt anymore, he hasn't paid rent in a month, i just want to make the best choice easy, but if he doesn't want it thats ok too. he can strike out on his own and who knows maybe he'll succeed.
my first al anon mtg is tomorrow night. my rent is taken care of this month and next month and i am in the process of finding a third (maybe just 2nd if he chooses not to get help) roommate. i'm ready for anything, really. thank you for everything, honestly. and please keep being as honest as you all have been. it is exactly what i need.