Blah. What's normal!
No, but in all honesty. You're right. It's about moving our reactions into the conscious arena and saying to ourselves: "I don't like the outcome of my actions and I can choose to do something differently."
That's gratifying to know... Even more gratifying when we get to a stage of awareness when we can act on them!
I'm actually quite grateful right now for being in a relationship that is bringing up these issues where I can see them, look at them, and choose what to do with them. I'm not quite sure what's going on with the relationship, but what's going on with myself is
Really cool!