whiskeyman, i know my head isn't where it should be, but do you mind if i ask if you're still together? i know i have a lot of work to do on myself and i know he has to recover alone and want it for himself, i just can't help but wonder if there's any hope for us, not just him and i separately. i know this isn't what i should be thinking about right now, but...that's why i'm joining al anon.
again thank you to everyone who replied!!! it means the world.