Agreed! People make choices every day, we are so lucky we get to make choices, yet some make poor choices. My AXH had the same friends I did, and I hung out with these people, but I made the choice not to use any drugs. I had bad things happen to me as a kid too, but I chose not to do drugs. I had alcoholic parents and I made the choice that drugs and alcohol wouldn't be my answer and they wouldn't do me any good. I had this same conversation with my AXH and told him he had a choice, call a sponsor and get to meetings, or relapse. He chose heroin. Not my problem anymore.