Welcome, Mags1! I'm glad you're having success with sobriety. The longer you do it the more natural it will become. Eventually you won't feel awkward or embarrassed by telling friends why you're not drinking.
Yes, you do have to want to do it for yourself. But it's smart to take that step back and realize what you have to lose. Your hubby has tolerated your drinking up to this point, so don't push it!
It's good to hear things are well.